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The whole concept of this is about the importance of tracking against our progress instead of against the goal. And the reason being that when we track against the goal, because we're good, because we're a players, because we're achievement oriented, because we're ambitious, by the time we get to the goal, we will have decided, give a monster cookie right? We will have decided that it could be so much better if we also did this thing, and this thing or this thing. And because of that our goals become horizon lines, our goals become the end of the rainbow, something that we can keep chasing.
And we will never ever get to how our entrepreneurs like us daring bravely to build a stage, ditch the sweat pants, and step up to the mic. How do we create our own transformative events? So we can get our message out into the world in a bigger way. It's not only profitable, but it's actually something we can be proud of.
That's the question. And the answers are inside this podcast. My name is Sarah Fejfar. Welcome to greenroom Central.
Okay, for the next few months, this podcasts gonna be a little different. I spoiler alert and moving this summer, which is going to be so fun. And we're taking our sixth annual Fejfar family road trip, summer road trip. And so because of all of that, I knew my life was gonna be crazy. And so I decided not to do interviews for you this summer. But what I wanted was for you to still get a fresh hot now episode every single week. So I decided to look at my audible and my Emma's or my apple Notes app, which is where I take notes on every book that I've read, and put together a book review series for you. And each week, I'm going to bring you a new book that I love and recommend. And hopefully you'll find something in here that you want to pick up.
So without further ado, here's this week's book. Oh, my goodness, I totally love this book, it's gonna be so fun. I know, as a listener of this podcast, you've probably heard me talk endlessly about the gap in the game on other podcasts interviews I've done recently, and I still wanted to talk about it some more. And so you're getting a full book review episode on the gap in the game today, written by Benjamin Hardy, and Dan Sullivan, the second in their series first being who not how, which we talked about last week, and 10x is easier than 2x being the next on the series, which we will talk about next week.
This this is this is for you, if you've ever felt like you've been constantly chasing goals, you're very achievement oriented, very ambitious. But you're not finding happiness at the end of the rainbow. And so I want to talk today about how we're going to shift the focus from what's missing to what you've achieved. And how that really simple mindset shift mindset shift is going to help you tremendously, tremendously. So keep listening, Mrs. For you. I promise, I promise you even if you think the I don't know, I'm really good at celebrating, keep listing.
So the whole concept of this is about the importance of tracking against our progress instead of against the goal. And the reason being that when we track against the goal, because we're good, because we're a players because we're achievement oriented, because we're ambitious. By the time we get to the goal, we will have decided, give him answer cookie right, we will have decided that it could be so much better if we also did this thing. And this thing or this thing.
And because of that our goals become horizon lines, our goals become the end of the rainbow, something that we can keep chasing and we will never ever get to. And so the secret unveiled in this book is we need to measure backwards we need to be measuring against what we've accomplished. And they set out a really simple method for doing this in the book and kind of drop it in like as if it's an ultimatum and it's either you're gonna start doing this today, because we've told you about it, and it's a thing, or you you're not.
And you're going to decide that, like, you're just going to be okay with always being unhappy. That's kind of how I got it. I got out of the book. And so I happen to be traveling that day that I read that section of the book, and I thought, Okay, I'll do the thing. And I was kind of thankful I was in a hotel room by myself. And so I didn't have all sorts of other noise and chatter. And so I got up my journal, the process is this the end of every day, write down three wins from the day, and then write down three wins, you're forecasting for the next day. And then three things you're grateful for, I'm not sure if that's the right order, maybe the gratitudes come first, you'll have to read the book to find out. So helpful.
So I did that exercise. And then the next morning, you review your wins from the previous day. And you review your forecasted wins for that day. And with a little caveat here, when you're writing down your wins, there's this thing that they talk about where wins are wins, and learnings are wins. And I think that's really cool. And it warrants a little bit of discussion here that when we learn something, when something doesn't go our way. And we're able to pluck out what the learning was there and frame it in a positive light, like, Oh, I'm so glad I learned XYZ, because then I'll just know that next time, I'll do it this way, ABC.
And I've tried that. And it works fabulously, even though you're going through something sucky. When you're able to pull out the learning. It doesn't feel that bad. And in fact, it's like, oh, yeah, me. I learned that good on me. And it works on kids too. In fact, we tried this. At the family dinner table waste, we started instituting it. As soon as I read this book, and we keep it going at night at dinner, and it makes for great conversation. You really get to understand what's going on in each family member's life, and cheer them on.
And I think it's especially helpful with kids, because then you're training them, you're training their RAS system, that reticular activating system, is that what it's called, you're trading their RAS to look during the day for winds. And the beautiful thing about that is when they have flown the nest, and they are no longer under your roof, and you're not there to pick them up when they're down. It's so important that they know this skill inside and out, and are constantly scanning their life every day for wins.
And when you do it, when they're a little, they start realizing well, when I'm scanning for wins, scanning for learnings during the day, I collect them. And then when I come to dinner, I'll this is how I fit in is when I share these things. You're just it's ingraining in them that this is what you do. And then again, when they're older and often their own. They have that esteem that self esteem because they're constantly excited by what they've accomplished. And not on this endless hamster wheel of trying to chase something that they may never get.
So Dan Sullivan says he started it 2030 years ago and like it's changed his life. And so I'm all in for it. The other thing? So yeah, so there's a total there's a new bedtime routine. There's Windsor, learnings, learnings or wins, there's and then the other thing I want you to know is this whole concept that happiness is a single player game happiness is an inside job, you are in charge of your happiness. And I was having a chat with somebody who's extremely depressed recently. And I was explaining this to this person.
Being like, the moment I got this years ago, the concept that I am in charge of my happiness, it's not anybody else's job. That things started to get good. And it's not easy. As something I have to remind myself, every single day, it's a mantra I start every day with. And I do that because it's so important. And this book goes into that a little bit deeper how important happiness is obviously to us. You know, feeling good, but also that it's, it's an inside job. And this concept of celebrating wins on a consistent basis, big and small, is so important, and to use this framework that they provided, because it works.
So I thought I wanted to share about the gap and the gain. i We pick this one up, it's, it's so darn good. I, I recommend it to everybody. I can lately because I caffeine is so important. And also because we're chasing big things. And we're going to get them and it's going to come from our ability to keep going. And our ability keep going is fueled by joy and happiness. And this is the key right here. So enjoy. Take care. Thank you for listening to the greenroom central podcast. If you love this episode, then please take a screenshot on your phone and post it to Instagram. And be sure to tag at Sarah Fejfar and let me know why you liked it. And what you'd like to hear or who you'd like to hear from in the future. That'll help me know what to create for you.
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